I have a friend, she is an English lady although lived in AUS for a long time. She is a very nice person, certainly has her own story to tall, as we all have. She has recently moved here into the village.

This lady is more than surprised and of course very pleased with how well she has been received by the friendly residents. When ever she comes up this part of the village she comes and has a chat. I’m sure we get on very well together. We talk about a lot of different things and agree on most all topics.

So what I am asking is, why does she need to keep being reassured that she is a nice looking woman. Sure she has a pleasant face and no doubt she was a pretty young girl way back when. Weren’t we all. To me most if not all young people look great. For a lot of years I used to look in the mirror and think “that’s OK” now when I look I either see my mother looking back at me or I see an old lady. If someone said to me “I want to be your friend, you have such a  pretty face” I would think what is that about. She has repeated similar tales to me several times and I have to wonder how true it is.  I can’t imagine anyone saying ‘Nice to meet you, you have such a pretty face.’

I do also have an old friend who to some degree has the same idea. One of the first things she does every day is put on the mascara, then she will say “how do you think I look this morning”  I say ‘you look good’ under my breath I think,’You would look better if you washed your face’ She also has been a pretty girl, so why do they need to be reassured. Why are looks so important at this age, of course it is important to look after ourselves. All the makeup in the world is not going to hide the fact that you are an old lady.

This thought probably all ties in with the fact that  a beautician is coming to the village. Are we getting to the stage where having our eyebrows tinted is as important as out pills. Or do I have a psychological problem.